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Why it is so important to see guidance and to do what's best for everybody concerned

Here is a story from the Silva Sales Power book that illustrates why we should seek guidance, and should not try to control other people:

How visualization transformed Marge Liddy's life

Marge Liddy says that goal setting, positive thinking, and visualization helped her build a very successful real estate business, persuade the man she loved to marry her, and more.

Along the way she learned some valuable lessons.

"You have to be careful what it is that you decide you want," she said. "Once you become obsessed with an idea that you want something and you are going to make it happen, I can verify that you have to be careful, because you may get it."

Her experiences emphasize how important it is that you use the subjective dimension, instead of putting all of our faith in your objective tools.

Liddy graduated from the Silva training in May of 1973, and used the techniques extensively. She hosted cottage group meetings of Silva graduates in her home, and even helped organize classes.

In 1974 she purchased a very small real estate business in Satellite Beach, Florida. "It was owned by a husband and wife, and they had four listings," she recalled.

Within two years she had built her new business into the biggest real estate company on the beaches of south Brevard County, and the fourth biggest in the entire county.

They had three separate offices.

She taught her sales staff how to use visualization and imagination to make more sales.

"I used to do a walk-through with the staff in my sales office," Liddy said. After having them close their eyes and relax, "I'd have them imagine putting sold signs in front of their listings.

"But you had to take it a step further," she added. "Not just imagining a sold sign, but take them to the closing table, their hands on the table, and getting their check. A sold sign in front of the house doesn't necessarily mean it will be sold.

"I would encourage my people to keep a positive outlook, and to use positive thoughts," she continued. "I encouraged them to go take the Silva course, but most of them were struggling so they didn't have the cash to do it. You know how that goes: You need the doctor, but can't afford to pay for it."

She also programmed hard for her personal goals, especially in regards to a man she had started dating in 1972. She made up her mind to marry him, and did.

"I was so much in love with this guy that I didn't know which end was up," Liddy said. "Once I learned the process, I started visualizing the wedding. It did take two years for it to materialize. We got married in 1975." He was also a realtor, and they were partners in the real estate business.

"The marriage was not something he wanted as much as I wanted," she admitted, "so therefore I forced something to happen that was not in his best interest.

"Sometimes you can get so involved with these things that you only decide what is going to make you happy, not what is going to make everybody happy. You can forget that you have to program for the best thing for all concerned. That's a real good point, that needs to be brought out: For the good of the whole."

In 1981 they were divorced, and she sold her interest in the business.

Liddy acknowledged that if she had programmed to find out what was best, and followed the guidance, she would have been better off.

Instead, she used every technique she could think of to develop her powers of persuasion and to find arguments in favor of marriage, and finally convinced him to marry her.

"I can tell you that I made it happen," she said. "I did have some reservations about doing this. Some little voice down deep said that this wasn't fair." So she persuaded him to attend the Silva training.

"He used it quite a bit. He visualized things he wanted to happen in his life. He visualized a boat at his boat dock, and sure enough, one appeared. So it definitely does work."

After the divorce, Liddy wanted out of the real estate business. She felt that the business was at least partly responsible for the breakup of her marriage. She sold the business to her ex-husband.

"I was really kind of burned out, because when you go as hard and fast as I do, it is easy to get burned out."

She invested her money in a ceramic tile business, with her son as a partner. "The competition was terrible," she said, "and quickly absorbed all my money.

"Everybody kept asking me why I didn't go back into real estate, because that's what I know best. Because I don't like it, that's why! I fought it tooth and nail."

Then she learned two valuable lessons.

A friend came to Liddy one day and told her that her dream house had come on the market. This was a riverfront house in Palm Bay, Florida, that Liddy had admired for a long time. But it was tied up in an estate; they could not get a clear title because of a missing heir.

"I got the MLS book, looked it up, and it was offered for $89,000," she said. Even though it needed a lot of work, the house should have sold for $150,000, she said. "But I had no money. The ceramic tile business was taking all of my time, energy and money, trying to make a go of it. I was out there working it. I said there was no way I could buy the house."

Her friend told her, "I have an idea that if you want it bad enough, you will figure out a way."

"That kind of weighed on my mind, so the next day I decided I had to give it a shot. One way or another, I had to give it a shot."

She wrote out a contract on the property with a $100 deposit. "I took it down, and there were two other contracts ahead of mine. I told them to put it in line and see what happens." There was no way she could have honored the contract at that time, because all of her money was in the ceramic tile business.

Two years later, both of the other contracts had fallen by the wayside because they still had not cleared the title. Liddy waited patiently.

"Then I sold the ceramic tile business, along with the building that we had purchased, and I had a nice pot load of cash about a month before the title became clear on this property. And I was first in line on the house." So she bought her dream house.

"Even though the ceramic tile business had been a very difficult business, I sold it at a profit because of the building," Liddy explained. "Real estate has always saved me. It has been good to me. I've had my periods when I hated it with a passion, but it has been good to me."

She had learned that she could accomplish whatever she wanted when she really wanted to, and that her expertise was in real estate.

After that, she did two important things:

"I went back and took the Silva course again, and started thinking positive, getting my mind in the right direction, which was: What you put your attention on is what you accomplish the most with. If you scatter your attention, you scatter your energy. It taught me to go to level, and to pinpoint my energies again, to put them in the right perspective."

After reviewing the course, Liddy began to use the Silva techniques to get guidance on what to do with her life.

The result?

"Now I am working as an independent real estate broker," she said. "It is working very well for me. My old clients find me somehow. They call me. I go and give them my undivided attention. If they have a house to sell, I take that particular house and work on it until I sell it. I do a lot of visualization around the house."

The combination of the two things - the Silva techniques, and the real estate business - allows her to live a very comfortable, happy life.

"I'm not wealthy, but I'm certainly living very comfortably for a lazy old lady," she laughed.

She has an active social life, including a man she has been dating for seven years.

Programming for guidance, and then focusing her energies to do what's best for all concerned, has helped Marge Liddy create a life filled with the happiness, prosperity, and sense of fulfillment that everyone seeks.

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